10 Commandments of Networking

Networking means different things to different people.

According to Webster’s Dictionary networking is “The developing of contacts with others in an informal network, as to further a career.”

I asked my daughter, Missy, “What is networking?”

Missy said, “It’s like making friends”. (I like both definitions.)

Networking is the intersection between work and friendship. For the purpose of this blog I am defining networking as “Building friendships with like-minded people where you can help each other fulfill your goals.”

“So, how do I do this networking thing?”

I’m glad you asked.

Here are the Ten Commandments of Networking:

  1. Think Win/Win. Any relationship that God is a part of is mutually benefiting.
  2. Lead by asking questions. (Come prepared with written questions.)
  3. Think about the other guy first. What can you do to help him or her?
  4. Listen more. Talk less. (Be quick to hear and slow to speak.)
  5. Be a Giver. Find something of value that you can give away.
  6. Avoid talking about politics and theological differences. You can learn from anybody, regardless of his or her theology.
  7. Turn lunchtime into the most productive hour of the day.
  8. Don’t be afraid to ask for help?  My Mom always said “the worst they can say is no”.
  9. Give people space. (Don’t be too clingy.)
  10. Get outside of your circle. The body of Christ is a bunch of little circles. If you get to know someone in a new circle he or she can introduce you to many new friends.


Mark Harper

Pastor, Filmmaker and Coach, Mark Harper has over 30 years of experience in the local church. He is the creator of the Super Church 2.0 Curriculum, which is used in over 5,000 churches worldwide. The focus of Mark’s ministry is helping leaders build strong churches and helping parents build strong families.
Not only has Mark served in the local church as pastor, associate pastor, and family ministry pastor but he is also a certified coach with the John Maxwell Team.
Mark Harper

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